FAQ

What can I do if I’m stuck at work and I can’t find anyone to watch my kids?


You can get ready for a situation like that by building a network of friends, relatives, and neighbors you can call on to watch your kids. Try taking turns watching a friend’s children so when either of you needs help on short notice you can call the other. If you know responsible adults who don’t have kids, offer to mow their lawn, run an errand, or take care of their house or pet when they are out of town.

How old do my kids need to be before I can leave them at home alone?


It depends on the maturity and abilities of each child. Of course, you should never leave an infant or young child alone or unsupervised. They need to be old enough, mature enough, and capable enough to be safe and to get help if they need it. Here are things to consider:

  • The age, emotional maturity, and capability of your child or children.
  • Is the home safe for a child of that age?
  • Is the neighborhood safe or are there special hazards or risks?
  • What is your child's ability to respond to illness, fire, weather, or other emergencies?
  • Does your child have a mental, physical, or medical disability?
  • Will your child know where you are and how to reach you or another responsible adult?
  • How many children are being left unsupervised?
  • How long will they be left alone and how often?

Where can I find a parenting class near me?


There are a couple of ways you can search for parenting classes and other services in your area - search for Programs in Your County or call 2-1-1.

I want my organization (company/church group/service organization, etc.) to get involved in preventing child abuse. What can we do?


There are a variety of things your organization or group can do to help prevent child abuse. Check out your options.

When is Child Abuse Prevention Month and how can we show our support?


April is Child Abuse Prevention Month. Learn how you can help support child abuse prevention efforts in April and year-round.

What does a child abuser look like?


You can't tell by looking. Child abusers can be from any ethnic group or income level. While most adults don't abuse children, an abuser is usually a person the child knows, such as a parent, neighbor, or relative.

I'm worried when my kids visit their other parent. What can I do?


Listen to your children if they say they don't feel comfortable around someone and let them know they can talk to you about anything.

  • Tell your kids to say “no” and “get away,” and to tell you right away if anyone tries to touch or hurt them. Tell your children to talk to you or another responsible adult such as a teacher or grandparent.
  • Teach your kids the difference between a good secret, like a surprise party, and a bad secret, something that makes them uncomfortable. Make sure your kids understand that it’s ok to tell bad secrets.

I know I need help, but I don’t know who to ask?


You are not alone. Everyone needs help sometimes and there's help out there for you. Take a look at what's available in your community.

If I suspect a child is being abused, should I intervene? When should I call the hotline?


If you suspect abuse, you should report it. Do not try to investigate the situation yourself. Call 1-800-252-54001-800-252-5400 or report online at www.TxAbuseHotline.org

I'm not from Texas. How do I report abuse in my state?


To report child abuse in your state, go to the Child Welfare Information Gateway.

My kids never behave! What am I supposed to do?


Give a time-out. Experts say this helps everyone calm down. Make sure the length of time-out matches the age of the child (3 minutes for a 3-year-old, 4 minutes for a 4-year-old, etc.).

Encourage good behavior. Praise your children when they do something well or follow directions. Give them a pat on the back and point out what they did well.

You'll find more good ideas in our parenting tips.

How many kids in Texas are abused and neglected every year?


Last year, 65,948 Texas children were abused or neglected by their parents or other caregivers, and 231 of them died because of abuse or neglect. Learn more.

I’ve heard spanking is child abuse. Is this true?


No, not in Texas. Punishment becomes abuse if it causes injury. A blow that leaves a mark, bruise, welt, or swelling, or requires medical attention probably would be considered abuse.

What is "neglect"?


There are different types of neglect. Neglect includes failing to provide for a child's basic physical, medical, emotional, or educational needs. Leaving a young child home alone or unsupervised or failing to provide needed medical care may also be considered neglect. Find out more.

Why do people abuse their kids?


People who abuse their kids often love them, but many things can lead them to do things they regret. Things like trouble managing stress, lack of parenting skills, or drug or alcohol abuse can all be factors that contribute to child abuse. Read more about why people abuse children on this website.